The LGBT Foundation have very kindly provided their full presentation from the session mentioned on the blog post below. It is really informative so please check it out!
The Rev Graham Sawyer, the Vicar from the Diocese of Blackburn, gave an illuminating introduction on how society may infer that tolerance was merely prejudice with a smile. He wondered whether people just wanted to be loved and accepted. He also felt that society had a preoccupation with pelvic issues.
Andrew Gilliver, the wonderful host from the LGBT Foundation and a full time professional homosexual (his words not ours :-) ) said that often the people of faith, when confronted with the issue of LGBT, would withdraw into solitude, not wishing to confront in case they offend. However, Andrew suggested that organisations should rather deal with the offence felt and address the issue of LGBT. The LGBT Foundation had written to 60 or more people of faith inviting them to this event, but the response had been lacking – are they afraid of what they may find?
He also highlighted this source of recent statistics: http://www.youthchances.org/ which gives the issues faced by young LGBT individuals in our country today - well worth a read.
Manchester Pride have an interfaith group now and wish to introduce it into the Pride event next year, just as we saw in London last June.
The first of the external speakers was Rev Hayley Matthews, the Rector of Holy Innocents, Fallowfield and Trustee of the LGBT Foundation. She gave an illuminating talk on hospitality and how those in faith groups need to welcome all into their places of worship. The welcome needs to be inclusive but not invasive. What people do or whether they have a husband can be problem for LGBT individuals: the questioner needs to show respect.
In terms of those people ‘coming out’: in a recent survey: 6.3% were fully out; 0.5% had come out to their Boss; 45.6% had come out to a few people; and the remainder, 47.6% were not out. The question why has to be asked.
Here's Graham Sawyer Hayley Matthews and Kieran Bohan
Kieran Bohan, from St Bride’s and representing Liverpool’s Spectrum of Spirituality, gave a wonderful quote:
Unconditional love =
This was extracted from person-centred counselling but fitted wonderfully how those in faith contexts should love and value others.
We then heard a talk from a worker at the LGBT Foundation, gave a deeply personal account of how a Muslim may feel when confronted whether to come out as gay or not. He described his roller coaster journey moving through suicide, self-harm, deep utter isolation, desolation, suffering verbal and physical abuse before coming out and finding employment with the LGBT Foundation. You wonder how anyone could ask the question: so is this a lifestyle choice when people go through such trauma. He also mentioned how hard it is to speak with his parents about his feelings, how this is currently (and may remain so for some time to come) nigh on impossible to broach. We haven't included his name as he has yet to speak openly with his parents and we don't wish to hinder that by naming him here. But we do praise him.
Tara Hewitt, an Equality & Diversity Advisor in one of the NHS Foundation Trusts, and also a past Pink List member, gave again a personal talk on how she had battled with her faith on her journey finding acceptance as a transgender woman. The Roman Catholic church had caused problems with confidentiality but the faith she has has been a rock and support for her. Her velvet blanket of love will always now be an image of the love of God!
And we gave a talk on how LGBT Lincs was set up and how it undertakes its role. We discussed the Clobber Verses and how the interpretation of those verses can cause such trauma when Jesus said ‘Love Another as I have loved You’. It’s so simple a statement to follow really.
We hope that such events will become a standard across the country but with a greater attendance from more of the clergy of all faiths, whether they be affirming or not. We have to talk and show His love.
Clink on the link below to download our presentation.
Many in the nation may not understand the significance of the Transgender Day of Remembrance.
Following Armistice Day last week when we remembered those who had given their life in battle, in conflict, and also to recall that these were 'the wars to end all wars'. The nation went into grief, for the day, adorned with poppies, politicians spoke with gravitas about the loss of so many.
The Transgender Day of Remembrance (TDOR) is an annual observance on, or around, November 20 that honors the memory of those whose lives were lost in acts of anti-transgender violence.
What violence? It's not as we have seen last week 'in a battle' but in everyday contexts: individuals not understanding the individual, perceiving them as 'not normal', and taking revenge for possibly their frustration. That's no excuse. It's possibly ignorance, a lack of understanding and tolerance to others.
This website highlights those who have died this year. Please look at it.
No, please, stop a while.
Ponder on the names, #SayTheName (this link will highlight #Trans deaths on Twitter), and ask yourselves how society can do this to people who just want to live their lives as everyone else does.
Some would take their own life. There's no easy way to discuss this and the statistics show that the probability of a #trans individual taking their life is 10 times greater than the population (LGB youth 3 times) - that's more than shocking. Further information on #transgender suicide is available here.
Manchester's Sackville Gardens (highlighted centrally below) is the location of one of the largest TDOR events in the UK and will occur on Sunday 22nd November.
May this year be a time of reflection, sadness
Across the UK TDOR events are located on this map.
Click on the map for an interactive version.
Tuesday, November 24th, 2015 19:30 (7:30PM)
Centenary Building, City University, London, EC1V 0HB
Tuesday, November 24th, 2015 19:30 (7:30PM)
Station Hotel, Bruton Way, Gloucester, GL1 1DG, UK
Sunday, November 22th, 2015 14:00 (2:00PM)
Dorset Gardens Methodist Church, Dorset Gardens, Brighton, East Sussex, BN2 1RL
Friday, November 20th, 2015 19:00 (7:00PM)
Leeds University Union Lifton Place Leeds LS2 9JZ
Sunday, November 15th, 2015 18:30 (6:30PM)
St. Bride’s Church, Percy St, Liverpool L8 7LT, United Kingdom
Thursday, November 19th, 2015 19:00 (7:00PM)
Orford Jubilee Neighbourhood Hub, Jubilee Way, Orford, Warrington, Cheshire WA2 8HE, United Kingdom
Honoured to be added to the Transgender Allies page of @tgfact. One of many people they have noted as willing to help if possible.
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