Your child is the same person he/she was before coming out of the closet. Remember, someone's sexual orientation is just one part of who they are. Your child who loved Manchester United and/or Rihanna is still the same kid you've loved since birth. Nothing about him/her has changed. You just have more knowledge about his/her life. Take this opportunity to connect as you did before you knew they were gay. Was there a favourite meal they liked or place you all liked to go? Make sure you continue to do the things, if possible, you did as a family.
Continue to show an Interest in Your Child's life. Talk to your son or daughter. If you feel comfortable asking questions about their sexual orientation, do so. But you don't need to focus on sexual orientation. Talk to them about school/work, other activities and interests. Studies show that children whose parents take an interest in their lives are less likely to engage in risky behaviour.
What You May Be Going Through
You may blame yourself for your child's homosexuality. Don't. It's not your fault. Most scientists and psychologists agree, people are born LGBT. It is not something that you could have influenced.
You may feel depressed and isolated, like you have no one you can talk to. Speak to some trusted friends, and speak with us, so we can walk alongside you on your journey.
Things will be different now than perhaps you hoped for your child. Most parents believe their children will grow up to be heterosexual, get married and have children. Letting go of that dream for your child can be hard. Remember though, that was YOUR dream. Your child may still choose to spend their life with one partner and have children. Even though your child did not choose to be gay, they may make some life choices you do not agree with. Although this may be hard for you, remember, it's their life and they have the right to live it as their own.
What Your Child is Going Through
When people come out, they often question their place in society. They wonder how they will fit in with the family. Will they still have a family? Get married, have children? How will their church or faith community accept them? Will their friends accept or reject them?
You have a choice. You can help your child feel accepted and loved, or you can add to their feelings of isolation. Make sure your child knows they still have a place in the family, no matter what the outside world tells them.
You can help your child connect with a supportive community. Many cities have support groups for gay and lesbian youth. First check the group out. Offer to drive your child to a meeting.There are many support groups on Facebook and elsewhere on the internet that you can join and contact parents in your area. STOP-Homophobia.com is just one of them.
Support your child if someone makes a disparaging remark against gays. If they are a victim of harassment or homophobia, stand by their side.
Who Can I Tell?
Who to come out to is ultimately your child's choice. Who you tell can have a consequence on their life. On the other hand, you might need to talk to someone and don't want to keep such important information to yourself. It's important that you be able to get the support that you need. Check in with your son or daughter before you tell anyone about their sexual orientation. Let them know you need to be able to talk to people to get support for yourself. REMEMBER you can always talk to support groups online, many anonymously.
If Your Religion Says Homosexuality is a Sin
Some religions call homosexuality a sin. Others are more open and accepting of gays and lesbians. The debate is still out on this topic and probably will be for a long time. If your child was raised in the same religion as you they are probably having lots of conflicting feelings. Take a look at the work of some Biblical scholars who have a different interpretation of the Bible. We believe that you can be a Christian and gay.
[Taken from http://www.stop-homophobia.com/comingout.htm]